Wednesday, June 23, 2010

What Happened to the Love??

Today’s Hump Day Thought of the Week is brought to you by the word/thought/emotion: LOVE.

Well I was driving to work the other day like I always do and after dropping my daughter off at school I listened to the radio. Normally I prefer a CD or the shenanigans of talk radio or news in the morning but I felt the urge to hear some good ol’ Rhythm and Blues. Well I must say that although, it incites a “feel good urge” and it makes you bob your head, it by all means does not move your soul or give you the hope that love as awesome as it is, exists.

Now I am not hating on your average “soul” artists but it is beginning to get annoying to hear about bumping, grinding and being a little freak more than soulful love, intimacy and kindness. What happened to songs that talked about doing anything to see a smile on your partner’s face? These songs encouraged you to bring your girl her favorite flowers or surprise her with a small token of love or even surprise lunch. I mean even for the cheap at heart (like myself) or those whose pockets are thin, there was always something that inspired us to do things out of love.

I even miss the songs about heartbreak that you listened to after a break-up. I mean after that idiot dumped you, you could listen to a song that related to your emotions regardless if you cried yourself into depression or simply destroyed their belongings. Now I am by no means encouraging any “Waiting to Exhale” behavior but the point is, where is the emotion nowadays?

Now songs only incite your libido. I am tired of hearing how many chicks/dudes folks can have or money. Quite frankly I DON’T CARE ANYMORE!!!! It’s ok to hear an occasional song about getting freaky but every single, bloody song is about sex, getting laid, getting high/drunk or getting money. Even to the raps. Are we running out of originality or are we allowing the music industry to turn us into clones who only listen to what they believe brings in the $$$$? Like I said I have love for the artists/poets of today and despite how I feel there are some soul artists who show the soul and love musically.

Honestly it’s no wonder a girl can’t get her man to do a damn nice thing for her, he’s busy thinking about getting busy! Ask a guy when is the last time he got her some flowers or gave her a massage or her favorite fragrance (Birthday, Valentine’s or Mother’s day excluded)?

And ladies you aren’t off the hook either, these stripper-themed songs aren’t encouraging anything much better. When is the last time you cooked for your man instead of worrying about outdoing the whore next door? Better question, do any of us amongst my generation even know where the kitchen is? Just curious, why is it that women just want a guy for money? I put it like this, if you gotta keep asking for money on payday or for him to do this/that for you, you have 2 options: 1) You can get a job/additional income and help yourself. 2) If he was any kind of real man, you wouldn’t have to nag/beg so much and thus you can find a man you shouldn’t have to ask for help over and over again because he would fulfill that need among others as his role as provider.

I am just curious where the love went is all… What happened to showing someone you care or surprising them for G.P. without sex having to be the only benefit? No wonder the divorce rate is high and fidelity is so low…